2026 · 28. May 2026

Anxious thoughts can feel urgent, important, and impossible to ignore. But what if they’re just noise? This piece explores how taking your mind less seriously can quietly reduce its hold over you.

2025 · 30. October 2025

We all seek reassurance on occasion, but what about when reassurance-seeking is persistent, excessive, or even compulsive? In this column, I explain why reassurance-seeking maintains and ultimately worsens anxiety.

2025 · 23. January 2025

"I probably messed up, didn’t I?", "You probably think I’m a bad friend, don’t you?", “It’s okay if you think I’m not smart enough, I know I’m not” – my latest column asks: why do some people routinely invite criticism?

2021 · 15. July 2021

"I must always feel completely in love with my partner, or else he is not 'the one'"; "I noticed another attractive person so I must not love my partner"; "I often get angry with my partner so I must not love him"; "Other couples are happy all the time". All-or-nothing thinking, catastrophising, hyper-responsibility, excessive 'should' statements – my latest column explores thinking errors often seen in cases of relationship OCD (ROCD).

2021 · 01. July 2021

What if I don’t really love my partner? What if my partner doesn't really love me? Is s/he "the one"? What if I am not as attracted to my partner as I should be? Would I be better off with someone else? Would s/he be better off with someone else? What if my partner doesn't know me well enough and realises too late I am not the person s/he thought I was? This column explores relationship OCD, or ROCD, which is characterised by agonising doubts and uncertainty about your relationship.

2020 · 25. June 2020

Do you frequently try to manage your worries by seeking reassurance? It's human to want a little reassurance when times are tough, but excessive reassurance-seeking doesn't help you manage anxiety – it perpetuates and worsens it. This article explains why and offers advice on how to kick the reassurance habit.